Before I start talking about this goal, there are a few lessons I’ve learned along the way on achieving goals that I want to share first.
Lesson 1: You can always change your mind.
Just the other day I changed a goal out of the ones I selected. I dropped a goal about having 3 number one hit singles (no really, that was one of my goals. Crazy cool huh!) and replaced it with the goal of owning a fully refurbished 1967 Ford Mustang GT.
I also changed this goal.
I took out the words “every year”.
The reason is simple.
This is my life, these are my goals.
So I set the rules.
And one of the rules is that I can always change my mind.
Make sure you play by your rules as well.
And read my blog post about changing rules during the game with others.
Which brings me to lesson nr. 2: The chase is better than the catch
It was 1989 and I was a massive fan of the Dutch band called Tröckener Kecks.
Probably the only band I’ve seen perform live more than 30 times.
Imagine combining punk music with Dutch lyrics, obviously my cup of tea.
It was the year they releases their live CD and video, called “Meer! Meer! Meer!”.
On it was one of their best songs ever, which translated to English, is called “The chase is better than the catch”.
Those lyrics resonated so well with me.
And yet, only now, 25 years later, I am getting the hang of this lesson.
Perhaps I’m a slow learner after all.
Let me give you an example.
I went to visit a company that we would like to partner with just the other day.
While driving over there I noticed an old garage that had an awesome Ford Mustang in its showroom.
In the past I would have left it to that.
Now I actually stopped on my way back, got out of the car and went in.
Knowing I can’t afford one right now.
And realising that wasn’t the purpose of my visit that day.
The purpose of that visit was not to buy that car.
The purpose of that visit was to move closer to the end goal.
The purpose was to enjoy the chase.
With that visit I have accomplished a few things.
First of all it’s a nice memory.
More importantly I now know that it was a 1965 GT, not the 1967 I’m looking for.
I also know that this one would cost me €35,000.
And especially the last accomplishment has actually brought me closer to my goal.
I now have a ball park number of what this goal will cost me.
And the more detailed you are about your goals, the easier they are to achieve.
Maybe this sounds trivial because it is such a small thing.
Don’t be fooled by this.
You’re job is to take care of the small things.
Life/God/the Universe, whatever somehow takes care of the big things.
Read Thoughts Become things if you want to understand this better.
I guess that might be lesson 3 then, be specific and detailed, take care of the small things you can accomplish.
Which brings me to the actual goal here.
Coaching is all about sharing what you know with others.
My interest in this got triggered during my previous role when our company set up a mentoring program.
I participated and was fortunate enough to work with 4 colleagues.
And that led to a life changing realisation.
I enjoy the success of others as much or more than my own.
Although this experience happened a few years ago, I can still feel the impact just writing it all down.
96 to go then, officially.
It is my hope that through this blog and this series I actually might add a few to the total number.
And since my current job is all about being in the backseat of other people’s success, I’ll be adding a few through that also.
And as an example of how life takes care of the big things, I am just appointed as a coach for a new initiative which we will start with next January.
Sure, you may call it serendipity or coincidence.
It doesn’t matter what you call it, it’s about the fact that these things help you accomplish your goals.
The end date of this goal is the end of my life, as this is one that once you’ve started you never can stop again.